I recently finished reading a wonderful book entitled "No-Cry Discipline Solution," by author Elizabeth Pantley. Pantley is the author of a series of "No-Cry" parenting solution books and I was incredibly excited to read her book on discipline. I am the parent of a 6-month old and a very independent 3-year-old
Pantley begins this book by reassuring the reader. She reiterates that it's impossible to be the perfect parent. She says that if you have the correct parenting response 70% of the time then you're doing an amazing job. She also clears up a misconception: "No-Cry Discipline" does not mean your child will never cry: your child will get angry and cry if he can't have everything he wants. The goal is not to keep your child from crying, the goal is to avoid crying so that your child can hear you and you can teach him a life lesson. Teaching is the main point of disciplining.
In another section, Pantley addresses the issue of parent anger. She fully acknowledges that you're going to get angry at your children. The key is to manage your anger so that you are in control of your emotions. An angry parent can make a child's behavior even worse. One tip she suggests is to take a moment away from your child if you feel you are becoming too angry to deal with the situation. I thought back to a moment during my maternity leave when the baby was crying and my 3-year-old was having a fit. I recall saying, "Mommy needs to go have a time-out!" I unknowingly used one of the coping mechanisms described in this book, and I took a moment to collect my emotions.
If you need a quick-fix for a situational behavior problem, Pantley has a solution for you. The back of the book is filled with quick reference guides for situations when your child won't take bath or misbehaves in public. Although I really recommend reading the entire book, these reference sections are great reminders when you are struggling with a particular behavior or situation. The quick reference guides also incorporate the parenting strategies you'll learn about in the first section of the book and ties everything together. If I had to summarize this book in one sentence I would say, "You'll learn strategies to avoid melt-downs (from your child and yourself), identify the real cause of your child's misbehavior, and develop positive ways to teach your child life lessons."
Elizabeth Pantley contacted us and provided this book for the purpose of this review. I was under no obligation to provide a positive review.