I had a rather unsettling experience at our 2014 GCDC event. The event itself was beautifully planned, wonderfully organized, and a fun family affair. However, it was a fellow cloth diapering mom who left a sour feeling in my stomach.
Our event provided free Charlie Banana diapers to all
participants (limited to the first 300 people), so parents were lined up
and anxious to get in and get their diapers. I found myself at the
back of the line since I wanted to make sure the newcomers had an
opportunity to get a free diaper. As time approached, I entered the
Change area and found a location to settle down with baby E.
I overheard a conversation from a nearby mom. She was talking with
someone who wanted to use the new Charlie Banana diaper for the Change.
"It's not going to absorb. You have to wash it first. (and then an
aside to her friend). New people just don't understand how to do this."
What! My heart pounded in my chest. First, newcomers should be
welcomed at these events: newcomers should not be made to feel foolish
for entering into some type of elite group. We're not elitists, are
we? Second, the information that this woman was going on about was
totally incorrect. Charlie Banana diapers are made with microfiber and
synthetic fibers: microfiber does not need to be prepped before use
because it's not an oil-containing natural fiber. Refer here for when
and how to prep diapers for first use.
My mind was whirling with frustration, and I really wanted to
correct the woman and enter into a discussion about fabric types,
prepping diapers, and the fact that she was incredibly rude to
the other woman. However, I was distracted by another newcomer who sat
down next to me and was struggling to figure out how to use the Charlie
Banana diaper. I helped her size the diaper, stuff the insert into the
pocket, and showed her how to snap the diaper onto the baby. The
official announcement was made, and we all changed our babies into their
cloth diapers. The newcomer I helped used the free Charlie Banana
diaper she received: great! That's exactly what those diapers are for!
After the change, everyone immediately dissipated and I did not have a
chance offer some supportive words to the other newcomer.
Although it's been a month since the event, I'm still very
saddened by this display of a rudeness and incorrect information. Stacy's recent post also made me determined to share this story. I'm
thankful that I had the opportunity to help another parent who was new
to cloth diapering, but I'm still frustrated that I couldn't stand up
for that other mom and make her feel welcomed. Maybe the cloth
diapering community could use a little bit of humility and a reminder
that everyone is new at one time or another.
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